Friday, July 10, 2020

DAILY SLICES OF LIFE - Taking Care of Each Other


                      “We’re all just walking each other home.” 
     
         This inspiringly deep and very personal quotation by the recently deceased, highly respected American-born psychologist and Hindu guru, Ram Dass (Richard Alpert), has become an international standard in discussions on human interpersonal behavior. While making the statement, he was alluding to the fundamental intention that by the very act of walking each other home, if we allow ourselves the privilege to do so, we will all have the unique opportunity to cultivate mutual understanding, respect, compassion, caring and mindfulness to the needs of one another and we will all grow in love and stature as we proceed to take care of each other.

         In saying this, Ram Dass was in fact figuratively referring to the spiritual journey that each one of us must undertake as we travel through life on our way to our eternity. Throughout this journey, we are never alone, but are constantly relating with others in a variety of ways involving the use of all our senses, real and imagined. While some of these contacts will be ones we know and share our lives, but there will be many we don’t know as they cross our paths. But irrespective of whom, all along the way, we are continuously influencing, and being influenced by them. And not withstanding whether this proceeds consciously and unconsciously, it will certainly impact the direction of our subsequent journey ‘home’, and affect how we eventually choose to behave on our travel. This is probably why Norman Vincent Peale, the very influential American author, religious leader and inspirational speaker firmly advised us on the behavior we should adopt:

         “To be successful is to be helpful, caring and constructive,
         to make everything and everyone you touch a little better.”

       Without exception, all the world’s major religions are founded on the principle of helping each other, and their members are constantly encouraged to treat others with the same degree of care and attention that they will treat themselves:

Christianity: The main thrust in Christianity revolves around the principle that God expects that believers must love others as they love him. The Holy Bible overflows with clear and unequivocal references:
          “But if anyone has the world’s goods and sees his     brother in     need, yet closes his heart against him, how then does God’s love abide in him.” … John 3:17
        “Truly I tell you, whatever you do to the least of my brothers,                 you do so for me.” … Matthew 25:40
       “Whatever you wish others would do for you, do also to them.”                                                                                                           … Matthew 7:12

Judaism: The principle of Lovingkindness, the act of caring for others is considered a core value in Judaism. The sense of inclusion of every person is stressed and the faithful are encourage to think of praying for everyone, rather than alone.

Islam: Helping others is considered to be a fundamental aspect of Islam. It is included as an integral part of obedience to Allah.

       “Whoever relieves a believer’s distress in this world, Allah will        rescue him from difficulties in the hereafter.”  …Holy Koran

Buddhism: The Buddhist faith was founded on the principle of Karma and the need for good action by serving others, generosity and compassion. They stress that without this, it was impossible to attain nirvana.
        “As human beings we each have a responsibility to care for                 humanity. Expressing for others brings inner strength and deep   satisfaction.”   …Dalai Lama

Hinduism: Caring for others in need is considered to be the heart of Hinduism. Vedic theology dictates that everyone must help to relieve the sufferings of others. This is considered their duty; their dharma.

       Yet, despite all the universal admonitions, the principle of taking care of each other’s needs in this world remain sadly disappointing.
Ram Dass, in his masterpiece publication in 1971, Be here and Now, explains that the reason for this rests on the basis of man’s nature to be judgmental rather than allow the natural course of events to take place. He compared man’s selfish actions to the beneficial actions of the living trees growing in a forest. As the trees grow freely and uninhibited, they will adopt their shape and size to accommodate the other vegetation and allow all to reach their fullness. But with the humans this is lost. They are weighed down by their judgmental attitudes and instead of asking what help is needed, they prefer to find reason and excuse for the shortfall in others. This attitude serves to increase the gulf of suspicion that exists and widen the separation. He strongly argued that this can only be overcome when we begin to replace the preconceived judgment by appreciation, and rejection by universal acceptance. William Penn, the English born Quaker, author, philosopher and founder of the State of Pennsylvania, offered a more honest belief when he wrote:

“I expect to pass through life but once. If therefore, there be kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do to any fellow being, let me do it now, and not defer it or neglect it, as I shall not pass this way again”

      The whole world is presently held hostage under a deadly grip of the vicious Coronavirus Pandemic, which has not only caused vast and unimaginable havoc to the environmental and the economic health of every single country in the world, but even more to the very survival of the world’s population. It has so far resulted in causing millions of infections and almost half a million in deaths without any end in sight; even while continuing to ceaselessly ravage every single corner without regard. At times like this, it would have been reasonable to expect the world to have come together, to pool their resources and to do everything possible to help all those in need. This after all, should have taken place if we all heeded the advice of our God, our beliefs and our holy teachings.

      But unfortunately for us all, Ram Dass was correct when he accused the human race of being too judgmental and not caring enough, and much more concerned about satisfying the self, at the expense of the rest. Had he been alive today, he would have raised his hand high over his head and would have cried out in horror that rather than walking each other out of this turmoil, we are continuing to do, both individually and collectively, everything as we please without any concern or regard to the needs of others. The evidence is overwhelming; when the president of the country contradicts and ignores the advice of his experts, when responsible people choose to deny or ignore legitimate warnings, when people elect to horde rather than share, and when they publicly risk spreading the disease by disregarding advice like avoiding crowds and wearing masks, these and the countless other ways we have chosen to avoid our responsibility of caring for one another, will confirm our sin.

      Without question, the urge to satisfy our egos at the expense of all else, is the single most damaging curse of humanity. Quite unlike every other living thing on this earth, we are the only entity that possess a deeply embedded ego that demands gratification at all cost. In fact, many truly genuine and sincere people will willingly attest, as Ram Dass pleaded, that this indeed might well be the greatest curse of mankind. Bob Marley, a man for whom I have the greatest regard, not only as an entertainer, but even more, a social philosopher, in his own inimitable way, was to the point, when he observed:

“Live for yourself and you will live in vain.
But live for others, and you will live again”


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