Friday, October 23, 2020

DAILY SLICES OF LIFE - In Search of Perfection

“I am obsessed with beauty. I want everything to be perfect; and of course it never is. And that’s a tough place to be, because you are never satisfied.”

         This interesting and provocative statement was made by Robert Mapplethorpe, a very successful and talented American photographer whose photographs are held in high regard as works of art. He was actually confessing in his quotation that although he spent all of his relatively short working life in pursuit of the perfect picture, he never ever achieved perfection. He recognized quite early in his life that, contrary to all his deepest hopes and intentions, achieving true perfection was not humanly possible, and that the best he could ever hope to achieve, is personal satisfaction.

         Confucius, one of the greatest and most respected of the ancient Chinese philosophers whose legendary works have been held in high regard throughout the ages, and have been acknowledged to be the foundation of Buddhism and Taoism, recognized at a very early stage, that while nothing humanly possible can ever be perfect, we can, and should, however, continue to aspire for perfection.  He stated further that while it was possible to achieve perfection in machines, human beings were never intended to be perfect, but rather to spend their lives in search of it. He insisted that striving for perfection was the most effective way to achieve individual progress and personal growth, and stated this unequivocally:

“The perfecting of one’s self is the fundamental base of all progress and all moral development

         The concept of the attainability of perfection, originally described by the Greek philosopher, Aristotle in the 4th century BCE, remains unchanged to this day. True perfection exists only as an abstraction of our minds, and is never attainable by any human being in the physical world. He insisted that the attainment of perfection can only achieved when certain specific, definitive criteria are satisfied: that the action is complete, without need for any addition, that it is so good, that it cannot be better, and that it is so correct, that it cannot be improved. This description still stands as complete and absolute, as is the belief that absolute perfection can only be achieved by God Almighty, who by his very nature, must himself be perfect. Arthur W. Pink, an English evangelical minister considered to be one of the most influential evangelical authors of the 20th century, expressed this belief in the following terms:

“God cannot change for the better, for he is already perfect;

And being perfect, he cannot change for the worse.”

         Despite this however, for as long as he has inhabited this earth, man has sought to find perfection in every aspect of his living, and in everything he does. He continues to insist on gauging his happiness, not so much on the attempts he makes, but only on the result he hopes to achieved. In his misguided desire to achieve perfection, he chooses to ignore the fact that, since nothing in life can ever be perfect, then he would be better served to aspire for the best he can possibly achieve. He needs to begin by first accepting the truth that irrespective of our desire to the contrary, nothing we do or think about doing can ever be absolutely perfect. And even further, since our interpretation of perfection is itself imperfect, we can only hope that by diligently searching for perfection in everything we do, we aspire to find satisfaction in some of them. Vince Lombardi, the legendary NFL coach who led the Green Bay Packers to 5 championship finals, and 2 Superbowl victories in 7 years, and was considered to be among the finest leaders in history, clearly understood this when he observed:

“There is no such thing as Perfection.

                  But in striving for perfection, we can achieve excellence.”        

         Without question, the greatest failing of our current culture, and society in general, is the relentless emphasis on achievement and on competing to be the best. We continue to demand effort to achieve perfection in everything and everyone, even as nature itself rejects it in favor of accepting the differences of chance. Deep inside, we are driven to strive toward perfection, not so much because we deserve it, but because doing so compensates us for our sense of inadequacy and inferiority. People who are most driven to find perfection are the ones who tend to harbor the greatest degree of resentment, or an abnormal and exaggerated sense of their own shortcomings, and an unshakable desire to prove they are better than others. They are the ones who are so consumed with having to be better and more superior than anyone else, that are never satisfied with being just ‘good’ but ‘have to be perfect.’ They are destined to spend their lives unfulfilled and unhappy, even in spite of the fact that everyone around them readily acknowledge all the good they have accomplished.

         The search for perfection in anything is therefore unproductive and misleading, and serves only to increase the person’s frustration and disappointment. It has the net result of limiting ability, and robbing the person of the sense of vitality that comes from being satisfied. Uncontrolled striving for perfection therefore is more likely to lead to a dissatisfaction of oneself and a rejection of humanity. Humans were never meant to emulate the perfect repetitions of the machine, but rather to embrace and to accept the inherent imperfections of humanity. This I believe was the message that an Unknown Author meant to convey in the following quotation that has received wide circulation:

“Perfection is an illusion, and those who seek it will find themselves unfulfilled for their whole lives.”

         True perfection exists only in the moment, and only in the mind of the individual who executes the action. In that brief moment of time when intention and fact connect to fulfill the hope, perfection appears. For this fleeting instant in time, when everything is as perfect as it was expected to be, perfection existed. But the perfectionist often misses these moments. In his obsessive urge to find perfection in everything, he remains so consumed with analyzing the past failures, and worried about the future mistakes, that he cannot see the success of this moment. Chuck Palahniuk, the very successful American novelist of Armenian descent, recognized this very early in his career when he noted:

“A moment of perfection was worth the effort.

A moment is the most you could ever expect from perfection.”

         The single most destructive curse in searching for perfection is the overriding fear of making a mistake and not succeeding. When one is afraid of this consequence, one always ends up compromising the choices available, and arriving at an unacceptable position. The answer clearly dwells, not on trying to chase the elusive goal of perfection, but rather in finding the feeling of satisfaction and the reality of excellence that comes from giving your best. Only then can there be satisfaction in the effort, and fulfillment in oneself. Antoine de Saint-Exupery, a world-renowned French aristocrat, author and humanitarian, observed the truth of this finding from his own personal experience when he stated:

“Perfection is finally attained not when there is no longer anything to add, but when there is no longer anything to take away.

This therefore is the true message in the search for perfection:

- True perfection is found not necessarily in trying to climb the highest mountain possible, but rather in the climbing of your own mountain, in the very best way you can!

 

 

 

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