Friday, June 12, 2020

DAILY SLICES OF LIFE -The Challenge of Change


  
“Change is the whispering wind that always seems to follow through on any effort to find stability.”

This profoundly interesting statement by an Unknown Author has always impressed me as one of the finest description of the true role of change in anyone’s life. From the outset, the human being, quite unlike all of nature’s other creatures, has always preferred to live immersed in the uniquely paradoxical state of holding on to their familiar and comfortable settings, while continuing to search for new and less familiar ones. Change is the stimulus that always leads to new and different circumstances, and it is nature’s preferred approach for others to cope with its recurrent natural phenomena, and in forcing individuals to make selections. Evolutionally, change also serves the fundamental purpose of inducing and/or encouraging continued adaptation and ultimately, improved evolutionary behavior.  Therefore from any aspect viewed, change is the engine of life, and the reason for continued living and growing on earth.

Change is nature’s way of forcing us to leave our comfort zones and to escape our human sense of complacency. It has no respect or consideration whatsoever for any weaknesses, strengths or needs of any one, nor is it concerned whether its effect on the individuals is for the better or for worse. It is relentless, and is never concerned with the basic impact it causes, nor is it ever satisfied with the outcome that results. It has no resting place, nor will it cease on demand, and it is always ready to move again. It does not need to adopt any special, exclusive, or reproducible image, but like the chameleon, it takes the shape that relates to circumstances; becoming at the same time loved by some, and hated by others. And like time itself, it respects no boundaries, being slow and painful for those who are reluctant to accept change, and a ceaseless whirlwind for those who embrace it. The late President John F. Kennedy, in one of his famous addresses, very clearly placed change in its right human setting when he said:

“Change is the law of life, and those who look only to the past or the present, are certain to miss the future.”

         At any given moment in time, the same act of change, like life itself, can become a mortal enemy to some people or a loyal friend to others; and at special times, it can even be both to the same person simultaneously. It has no loyalty to anything or anyone but its own peculiar circumstances. This indeed, is the law of nature where life is measured not by the present, but by the end-results, and not in a single moment, but for eternity. Lao Tzu, the foremost of the great ancient Chinese philosophers and founder of the School of Taoism, very effectively placed the meaning of change in life in its true context when he said:

"Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like."

         Dennis Merritt Jones, the respected American author of the award-winning social masterpiece, The Art of Uncertainty, described life as being a contest between a rock and a river. Because the river is willing to flow in whatever direction nature dictates, going over, under or through any change in its path, it will always grow and prosper, and reach its final destination, enhanced in stature. The rock on the other hand, choosing to stand firm and to resist any force or change that may come along, will not only never move forward, but over time, will lose its strength and its relevance, and become an insignificant pebble. In this metaphor, Jones related the flowing water to those of us who accept the natural changes on our journey of life, learn to grow from them, and reap fulfillment. The rock on the other hand, standing resolute, rejecting the forces of change, will spend its life in regret and in frustration. He was confirming once again, what Sir Harold Wilson, a highly respected British politician, statesman, and a former Prime Minister of Great Britain, who firmly declared:

“He who rejects change is the architect of decay.”

  While change is without question, the foundation of life, it is the challenge to change that determines the future direction of life. Any growth or success will never be achieved by trying to ignore or to change the challenge when it appears, but only from challenging the change. This is nature’s way of ensuring growth and continued survival of the species. It always takes adversity and a threat to our complacency to create change, and without the challenge to change, we are doomed to being left behind without growth or development, and ultimately, to extinction. We cannot ever ignore the call for change without having to pay a significant price. And unless we are prepared to respond and be willing to accommodate to its demands, we are destined to be discarded into the rubbish heap of humanity. This, I believe was what Maya Angelou, the outstanding, African-American author, poet and social philosopher was alluding to, when she offered this recommendation:

“If you don't like something, change it.
 If you can't change it, change your attitude.”     

It does not matter whether we are consciously searching for change or resisting it, we are all subject to the challenge of change with the same dynamic principle.  Whether we choose to see change as an ally or as an enemy will make no difference to its quality or its timing, but how we choose to respond to it, will certainly have great relevance to our needs, wants and desires. There are essentially 4 factors operating that will determine a person’s reaction to change.
 These are:
1. Underlying Ego and Self-image:  the way we feel about ourselves influences the meaning of life and our interpretation and our reception of reality.
2. Personality Make-up: the way we think, behave and anticipate impending action, plays a vital role in behavior and our decision- making process.
3. Perception: the way we see ourselves in relation to the world, determines our attitude toward others and the environment and gives meaning to life.
4. Past Experience: more opportunities for exposure to changing conditions increase confidence and conditioning, and reduce the levels of anxiety toward the unknown.

         People generally react to change in widely different ways that often renders subsequent behavior inconsistent and unpredictable. In each situation, the decision is influenced not only by the event or its impact, but by our own underlying beliefs and emotions at that time. Despite this, following the laws of nature, change, irrespective of good or bad, will continue to happen throughout life. And while we are not always able to control all the changes that occur in our lifetime, we still have the power and the responsibility to react to the changes. Unlike the other members of the animal world, we alone, have the intellectual capacity to be able to understand and embrace the changes in our lives and the skill to modify and adapt sufficiently, to render them less threatening and allow us to emerge as victors and not be victims. This I believe is what George Bernard Shaw, the prolific Irish playwright, author and activist meant to convey, when he declared:

“Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.”

-Indeed, the challenge of change as an integral part of nature, must never be feared, but rather be welcomed, accommodated and adapted to serve mankind. This is the law of survival!

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